She’s Not Antisocial; She’s Creative

She’s a little quirky, not very good at holding conversations, forgetful, late, and wears odd thing. She hides during lunch and takes frequent bathroom breaks during gatherings, just to get away from the noise. A lot of people think she’s anitsocial, but she’s not.


She’s creative.

Here are a few things about Quirky-antsocial-girl that might help you to understand her.

Noises get to her. 


There’s a lot going on in her head. I mean, A LOT. She looks at the color of your shirt and considers how it will work in her next painting. You mention a book you’ve read, and she automatically thinks of how she can apply your favorite parts of the book to her novel. So, when you add noise to the noise that already exists in her head, it can be very distracting to her. She may have trouble consentrating on her environtment or the converstation she’s participating in. She knows that about herself, so she often avoids noisy environments. And what’s noise to her might not be noise to you.

She really, really, really wants to say the right thing, but rarely does. 

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Because of this internal noise, she finds it hard to say the right things. Or, worse yet, she just blurts out the noise, which leads to pressumably nonsensicle responses. To you, her comments might not make any sense, but to her, there’s a perfectly logical connection in her mind.

She’s much better on paper. 


Due to the communication block, she can appear dense, but she’s really very deep and has some very cool and informed outlooks on things. She’s better at communicating if she can write things down. It gives her time to sort out her thoughts and filter some of those crazy rabbit trails out of the conversation. You might get a lot of emails, texts and hand written notes from her that are really impressive, but when you meet her in person, she’s not quite as spectacular. Rest assured, there’s no one writing her messages for her. She’s just much better on paper.

She weighs her options. 

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She’s very intuitive and in touch with human emotions, yours and hers alike. Because of this, she’s very aware of how uncomfortable she makes people. So she weighs her options. Sometimes, to avoid the awkwardness, she chooses isolation.

Minutes should not be wasted. 


This is why she’s always late. It’s also why she’s a bit forgetful. Every minute is an opportunity to create. EVERY MINUTE. She rarely sits to watch a movie or socialize. Unless she’s napping due to creative fatigue, she’s always up and moving and doing something. She feels a little piece of her wasting away if she doesn’t. Five minutes before she needs to be somewhere, she often finds herself knee deep in an extensive project. It’s usually pretty hard for her to disconnect from it. Even when she steps away, she leaves a part of her mind behind to finish up.

She’s really very happy. 

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People see the isolation and the oddness and assume she’s tormented, lonely or unhappy. But the truth is, she’s not. Every day is an opportunity to her. She’s excited by the smallest things in nature. She creates exciting stories in her head and is always thinking about the next project. So, don’t feel sorry for her or assume that her motives are self absorbed. She’s okay. She’s happy. She loves you, and she wants you to understand her and love her too.


3 thoughts on “She’s Not Antisocial; She’s Creative

  1. OH my goodness! Pretty sure you just described me! Except for the late part. I get extremely anxious if I’m late because I feel like I’m letting folks down. Thanks for sharing these truthy feels so all of us creative people can find our tribe 🙂

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